The Way We Work: Graduates Play Waiting Game at Home

In a difficult economy, many graduates return to their childhood homes looking for work.

Many college graduates are finding themselves in a decidedly retro phenomenon, where economic independence starts from the security of their parents' homes.

"What seems to be changing is not that kids are returning home for a while after college, but how long they are living at home before they can leave," said Lawrence Levy, executive dean of the National Center for Suburban Studies at Long Island's Hofstra University. That could have widespread implications for local communities.

Changing economic dynamics and cultural shifts are among the reasons experts cite for the re-emergence of nuclear, multi-generational family homes not unlike family units of post-WWII America.

More Kids at Home, Less Stigma

A study by the Pew Research Center of U.S. Census data determined that 39 percent of adults (ages 18-34) live with a parent or have moved back home at some point during recent years. Among those who have just graduated high school or college (ages 18-24) 53 percent lived at home or moved back temporarily.

Those figures represent the highest percent of Americans living in multi-generational homes since the 1950's, the Pew study said.

In many affluent suburbs, insecurity about economic prospects often predeominate: An extensive survey by the Stony Brook University Center for Survey Research from the fall of 2011 was a snapshot of life in post-recession suburbia: nearly 70 percent of the Long Island households surveyed with family incomes between $35,000-$100,000 annually reported some difficulty in meeting their monthly mortgage or rental payments.

An Associated Press report in April that said opportunities for college graduates vary widely. The report indicated that those with degrees in the arts and humanities may have a long wait ahead of them.

Levy's take: "These are not your mother's and father's suburbs."

In the Pew study, nearly half of these so-called "boomerang" children report paying rent to their parents and almost 90 percent have helped with household expenses.

The social stigma of living at home may also be disappearing, many experts report. The Pew study said about 75 percent of returning young people reported the living arrangements were either good (24 percent) or about the same as before they left (48 percent).

Many reported having college friends in the same circumstances and, unlike previous generations, the explosion of social media keeps them in touch with college friends who are far away.

Sharply Divided Generations

Levy is a Baby Boomer, and after college, he traveled a bit and moved back home briefly, but picking a career and moving out went together naturally. He spent 30 years as a journalist, eventually becoming chief political columnist at Newsday.

"It is clear that this (new) generation now faces much bigger debt, car loans and school loans, credit card costs," Levy said. Looking at his friends and neighbors, he sees suburban newcomers who are more comfortable with a multi-generational family arrangement than the previous generations that turned Long Island's farms into bedroom communities of shopping plazas and armies of commuters to Manhattan.

He might as well be talking about Laura Conte. "I'm still at home because I enjoy it," said the 24 year old a public relations specialist. "I do not make enough money to live on my own and save the way that I want to. My monthly bills are fairly low and I think it is more beneficial to save my money at this point."

Even the secure are staying home. For the last year, financial advisor 29, is a practical, accomplished professional who understands the importance of saving for the future. Since graduating SUNY Binghamton, Trugman, who teaches others how to be responsible with money, first lived at home or with his dad and later shared a place with a brother. Now he has had his own place, an apartment in Plainview, a Long Island suburb about 30 miles east of Manhattan. But that is a recent development.

"It's financially challenging to enjoy a certain lifestyle while building a practice, and finding the time to pursue professional designations," he said.

In many ways Trugman is the norm among educated suburbanites who didn't want to leave their home communities and were willing to re-adjust to living with relatives. His approach can be strikingly pragmatic to people who think of the their 20s as a time to head out adventurously into the world and start a career.

For Conte, a 1950s-style scenario sounds just fine: "I would like to stay at home until I get married or save enough money to put a down payment on a house," the LIU Post graduate said. "Whichever happens first."

ANONYMOUS September 03, 2012 at 12:03 PM
Although one would assume that they would graduate and a job would be waiting for them...the last several years of an economic slump has proved that there are and were never entitlements associated with an education. An education It is for your personal fulfillment. It appears that this is the wave of the future...entitlements are not just for seniors and lower income citizens it hits home when economics fail. Instead of staying home and waiting for a "bailout" get a job any job..learn a trade. Having a trade (something the graduate looked down upon) may now be the answer to this economic fiasco. The recovery will take years with this deficit..you need to move on and get your life together outside of the box you had planned.
Parksloper September 03, 2012 at 02:53 PM
"What seems to be changing is not that kids are returning home for a while after college, but how long they are living at home before they can leave," Thank Obama. Who else would keep "kids" on their parents insurance till the age of 26! What do you expect when half the country is on some type of public assistance thanks to Obama.
maria pagano September 03, 2012 at 05:37 PM
At first I, too, was not happy with the differences in life choices for my kids. As a Boomer, I expected my kids to do what we did: graduate, travel, work, etc. I, too was looking backwards, over my shoulder, at what we did. What was. The facts: We, my husband, friends and sibs, didn't do what our parents did, either. Altho some of my childhood friends did "stay the course" by never leaving home, marrying, etc. we moved forward into 'our' future. I am only now beginning to see the benefits of what my kids are doing. Things that we didn't do: my son is living at home, working w/ his dad and saving money- not bad ideas, but we were adventurers. My daughter lives on her own, is completing her MA, teaching and getting married. Again, we didn't make those kind of practical plans. Yes, are fortunate to have the education, support and focus of a solid middle class family, which my husband, our families,friends and communities have provided. We are fortunate, blessed, lucky- pick one- and our children have applied themselves to get where they are. We are Americans, fortunate beyond belief to be here. No complaining, no blaming-please! Enough whining. Nobody said life was going to be fair. We have hope, our energy and true leaders among us. Lets move forward. Maria Pagano
Sonia September 04, 2012 at 02:31 PM
I think the option of living at home is a wonderful alternative that gives recent college grads the opportunity to save, pay off their student loans, and understand how to budget their paycheck. I envy my friends who are able to do this!
Sara September 04, 2012 at 04:22 PM
there should be a finite end date to living at home. If you haven't found your dream job by then...find one at a restaurant or store. Living at home should really just be an option for grads who may need to take unpaid internships to break into their field. but there is too much of this going on, in my opinion. kids should figure out how to fend for themselves. And as far as Obama allowing kids to stay insured under parents until 26--i benefited from it while being an employed member of society...many jobs (appallingly, i'll add) do not offer insurance...


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