A Gemini Female and Libra Male

Dear Yael,

I was born on June 1, 1973 at 1:30AM in Mexico City, Mexico
and I need your help.  I have been seeing someone for almost two months and his inconsistencies are driving me crazy. He was born on October 1, 1967.  He's so different from what I'm use to in a man, and I guess this is what I love about him. He's very busy and has a lot of baggage…but don't we all? We have had serious talks, and we decided to take things slow. But sometimes I feel like I’m
only a decoration on a shelf and I’m only taken down and looked at when he feels the need to admire it. Is it time put my foot down or should I just go with it?

Sincerely,

Gabriela

Dear Gabriela,

While reading your questions, a couple of things come to mind.
Unlike my usual posts, I would firstly like to address your concerns without paying too much attention to your astrological profile.  Then, of course, I will explain why you are having such a difficult time with this gentleman in particular with the help of the zodiac.

Firstly, let’s gain some perspective. You have been dating this man for only two months now. Sometimes, men need a little bit more time to adjust especially the older they get.  A 35-year old bachelor for example will be far harder to “educate” as opposed to a 25-year old. He may simply just be used to being on his own and doing what he wants without having to console you. Another point worth mentioniong is that you may also dive into relationships more quickly than the norm.

Secondly, if he makes you feel like a potential trophy wife, there are a few things to consider.  Are you locking yourself into this role or are you actually showing him your full range of colors, personalities, intelligence and all? 

Thirdly, there are a lot of potentially beautiful relationships which get off on the wrong footing simply because the communication isn’t there.  Be sure you are being honest with yourself firstly, what you want and need and then relay the message to him.  If he still gives you the feeling that you are only in his life to serve superficial ends, then perhaps you need to reevaluate how much energy you want to invest in this particular relationship.

Fourthly, as you two have only been together for two months, don’t jump the gun.  Enjoy the honeymoon phase.  What’s the rush?  Enjoy getting to know each other.  Once the romance phase is over, what will you have anyway?  Sometimes, time is the answer.  If you feel he is worth it, then be patient.

Finally, I want to add that you have a very complex chart
since your Sun, Moon, Mercury, and Venus are all Gemini. You are intellectual astute, versatile, impulsive, restless, daring, enthusiastic, and inconsistent.

A Libra is one of the best matches for a Gemini such as yourself. However, Libra men take their time in making decisions, as they are prone to weighing out the pros and cons. 

You are most likely used to attracting fiery men who know what they want when they see it.  Libra men are less deliberate.  They need patience and time.  You may have found yourself in the male form in many areas.  You have more similarities than differences.   

This can be a wonderful union if the two of you are up to it.  Remember, Libra men are also very much attracted to all beauty. However, if in fact you feel that he is too superficial for you, then
make it known.  Calm down, relax and keep an open mind and line of communication. 

Yael